We've been talking the last seven weeks about coming out of the dark, exposing our problems to the light of God's love, and watching Him heal those habits, those hurts, and those hang-ups that mess up our lives. We've been in this series on called Getting Healthy for seven weeks, and many of you are seeing some great changes in your life.
But today I want to talk about how do you maintain your recovery? How do you not lose the progress you are making in your Christian life?
The fact is, growth is not smooth. The Road to Recovery is jagged. It's two steps forward, one step back. It isn't all easy. You have problems, you fall back into self-defeating patterns. That's called relapse. The alcoholic may go back to drinking. The overeater gains the weight back. The gambler goes back to the casino. The workaholic fills up his schedule again. We tend to repeat the patterns of our past. It's very easy to slip back. It's easy to slip back into old hurts, old habits, and old hang-ups.
Today I want to look at what causes a relapse and then the maintenance step, which is Step 7 on the road to recovery, on how to avoid a relapse.
Most of you are probably not aware that Chris Easton serves with me as an intern. He is a senior at Mt. Vernon Naz. University. You will be seeing more of him in the future. Today, I have asked him to help me with this sermon so in a few minutes he will address the first main point.
Before he comes, I want you to understand that relapses happen in a very predictable pattern.
1. Complacency. You start getting comfortable with short-term gains. You start saying, "I don't need any more help, my pain has been reduced, not eliminated but reduced, but I can live with reduced pain. I don't need to work the steps anymore. I don't need a counselor or a mentor and you become complacent.
2. Confusion. That's when you start rationalizing, saying, "Maybe it wasn't really so bad after all, the problem really wasn't that bad, I can handle it myself." You start forgetting how bad it was.
3. Compromise. You go back to the place of temptation. You return to the risky situation that got you in trouble in the first place, whether it's the bar, or the mall, or thirty-one flavors, or whatever. You go back to that place. Like the gambler who says, "Let's go to Vegas, we'll just see the shows." You start compromising.
4. Catastrophe. This is where you give in to the old habit, old hurt, and the hate comes back, or the resentment comes back, or the old hang-up. You need to understand that the collapse is not the relapse. The catastrophe is not when the relapse happens; it started much earlier. The catastrophe is simply the result of the pattern that happened.
Why do we fall back? Why do we, even when we know which way to go, when we know the right thing, why do we tend to go back on what we know is the right.
I. What can cause a relapse?
1. Reverting to willpower.
Galatians 3:3: "How can you be so foolish? You began by God's spirit, do you now want to finish on your own power?" You start off trusting God, and Step 1 is I'm powerless to change, but Step 2 is God has the power, Step 3 is I'm giving it to God. And you let God make those changes in your life, but after a while you start thinking, "It's me that's doing this, I'm making the changes. It's my power.” And you resort to good old willpower and that doesn't work. You have a few successes and suddenly think you're all powerful, all knowing and can handle everything.
It's like the middle-aged lady that went to New York and went up to the twenty-third floor of an apartment, knocked on the door, a beautiful young lady opened the door, incense wafting out, music playing, and she's wearing a sarong or a sari, she's clapping little bells and she said, "Are you here to see the great Bagone? The one who knows all, sees all, tells all, understands everything, is in ultimate control?" She said "Yes, tell Sheldon his mother is here." We all need somebody to tell us when we're Sheldon. We all need someone to say,"Who are you kidding? You're you." And God will let you relapse and relapse and relapse until you realize you can't do it on your own. He'll just let you fall, one hundred, two hundred, three hundred times till you say, "God, I can't do it.
Zechariah 4:6: "Not by might, nor by power, but by My spirit says the Lord. You will succeed because of My Spirit." Only God has the power to take away those defects. If you go back to will power you're going to relapse. If you're thinking, "I'll just try harder," forget it.
2. Ignoring one of the steps.
We get in a hurry. We try to move through the steps to quickly, maybe you want to skip a difficult step like, "I don't think I need that one last week on the amends part; I'll have partial recovery; and we'll just kind of skip that one that says, "Go back to the people you've harmed." No, you need to do all the steps or it doesn't work. And you need to follow what the Bible has said are principles for life. So there's no quick fix. You didn't get into this mess overnight; you're not going to get out of it. You need to do all the steps.
"You were doing so well. Who made you stop obeying the truth." He says, Keep working the steps. Maintain your momentum. Stay with the basics.
3. Trying to recover without support.
“I'll just get well by myself. I don't need anybody else's help." You're asking for a relapse. "I'll listen to these sermons, I'm not going to go to counseling, I'm not going to go to Celebrate Recovery, I'm not going to go to small group; I'll listen to these messages andI'll just get well on my own." Wrong. It doesn't work that way. "Two are better off than one because if one of them falls down, the other can help him up. But if someone is alone and falls it's too bad because there's nobody there to listen and lift him up or help him."
You can't lick this problem alone. If you could have you would have. But you can't so you won't. When you're tempted and things are going bad, who you gonna call? That great theologian Bill Withers said, "We all need somebody to lean on." We do all need somebody to lean on and we need support. And you're not going to make it in life if you don't have those relationships. Hebrews 10:25: "Let us not give up the habit of meeting together." You can see short-term gains in your life without involving other people if you'll do these steps. Yes. You can do these steps on your own and you'll see short-term effects, but you cannot do long-term recovery without relationships. The root of your problem is relational. You can go out and practice these things on your own and not get involved with anybody else. It will work for a while but it won't work for long and you will relapse. I guarantee it. It's kind of like driving a car at fifty-five miles an hour and you take your hands off the wheel. You're not going to crash immediately but it will happen, eventually. And if you don't get support when the temptation comes and then you don't feel like doing the right thing, who's going to help you do the right thing? If you fall, who's there to help you?
In order to avoid a relapse you need to get support in your life. Because of denial you often can't see your own problems. So we need each other to serve as mirrors. That's the value of these testimonies and stories we've been having. When we share our stories with one another, We see some part of ourselves in it. I would never have seen it in me unless you shared it with me. And when I share you see part of yourself in me. And so when you share a testimony it brings healing to yourself and hope to other people.
4. Becoming Prideful
We get overconfident and prideful and say, “I am strong,. I’ve got this hurt licked. I’ve got this habit licked. I’ve forgiven them, closed the door.” Prov. 16:18, “Pride goes before destruction.” There’s an old saying that states very clearly, “The man who gets to big for his britches will eventually get exposed in the end.”
Pride, yes even spiritual pride will always set you up for a fall. The secret of lasting recovery and staying healthy is humility. It is the best protection.
Do you remember a few years ago before the Soviet Union broke up there was a German teenage boy who flew a private plane into Soviet airspace and landed it in the Kremlin in Red Square? The most heavily guarded air space in the world and a kid flies right into it. That is a parable of life. What it says is that your greatest weakness is often an unguarded strength. You say, "I've got this all together" "Let him who stands take heed less he fall." "Oh, my marriage would never fall apart." Watch out. "I'd never get addicted to anything." Watch out. "Let him who stands take heed lest he fall." Because often the very area you think you're strongest in is unguarded, and that's where a plane's going to fly in and land right in the middle of it.
II. How do I prevent a relapse?
Maintaince Maintain the Steps we’ve been talking about.
Step 7 is the Maintenance Step. Reserve a daily time for God, For self-examanation, Bible reading,and prayer in order to know God and his will for my life, and gain the power to do it.
This is based on Mark 14:38: "Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation, for the Spirit is willing but the body is weak." He's saying it is human nature to have a relapse, to go back to things that mess us up even though we know they mess us up. It's human nature to let past problems revisit us, old hurts, and hang-ups come back to haunt us. So He said, you need to have some safeguards. And that's what this step is about. There are three safeguards that help you maintain your recovery.
Three maintenance tools:
1. Evaluation.
First Corinthians 13 says, "Check up on yourselves. Lamentations tell us, "Let us examine ourselves and let us repent." What do we first examine? and when?
What to Evaluate -- Four kinds of inventories:
1. Physical: You ask the question, "What is my body telling me?" Your body is a barometer of what's happening inside you. You have tense muscles? Guess what? You're under stress. You have a headache or a backache. What is it saying to you? Your body is a barometer, a warning light that maybe something is wrong, and so periodically you need to stop, maybe in the middle of the day and say, "What is my body saying to me? Am I hungry? Am I tired? Am I fatigued? Am I stressed out?" Take some clues that maybe things are out of line.
2. Emotional: What am I feeling right now? Am I allowing my real feelings to surface? Or am I just pushing them down? Pushing down your real feelings is like shaking up a Coke bottle and not taking the cap off; it's going to blow eventually. You do what I call a "heart check."
H - Am I hurting? If you are hurting and won't admit it and deal with it, it's going to mess up what you're doing.
E - Am I exhausted?
A - Am I angry?
R - Do I resent anybody?
T - Am I tense? anxious? fearful?
3. Relational: Am I at peace with everyone? If you're not, that internal conflict is going to keep you back, hold you back, from your recovery. There are some people around you, you obviously know when you are having conflict with. But there are other people a million miles away … Do you realize you let some people live rent free in your mind? Aunt so and so hurt you fifteen years ago and she lives a thousand miles away, and you wake up thinking about her. You're letting her live rent free in your mind. Preoccupied with it. It's controlling you. You got to let it go. Ask yourself, "Is there anybody living rent free in my mind? Am I holding on to a hurt?"
4. Spiritual: Am I relying on God? Moment by moment am I relying on God?
When you do an inventory at work, like a grocery store, you don't just look at the bad fruit that's spoiled, you look at the good fruit too. When you do an inventory you want to say, "What's good in my life?" You celebrate any minor victory, no matter how small it is, on a daily basis. I told the truth at least once today. I blew it three times but I was calm twice. I at least wanted to be unselfish in that situation. You celebrate, no matter how small the progress is, I'm making progress.
You do an evaluation, you celebrate your successes and confess your failures, but you be grateful for what you have done that's right. "Each one should test his own action. Then he can take pride in himself without comparing himself to somebody else." You can be honestly prideful, I'm proud of what God's doing in my life. I'm grateful that God is working and I'm seeing progress in my life.
When do I do my evaluation? Evaluation is kind of like cleaning house, and there are three ways you can clean a house:
1. Some of you are neatnicks. You are instant cleaners, you live with a Dustbuster strapped to your holster. You walk around behind the kids, picking up after them, like those waiters at restaurants who take your plate before you've finished your meal.
2. Others of you kind of clean house at the end of the day. Look around the house, pick it all up, do a daily clean up, keep the thing from falling completely apart.
3. Others of you, once a year, whether the house needs it or not, clean it up. Kind of like spring cleaning.
This is the same way you can do an inventory.
1. Spot check inventory. At any time of the day, you start feeling the pressure build you say, "What is my body saying to me? What are my emotions saying? Am I tuned into God right now? Do I have any relational conflict?" You try to deal with it immediately, because the longer you postpone a problem, the worse it gets. You need to learn to do what I call spiritual breathing. Just as natural as breathing is to you, you need to do spiritual breathing. Spiritual breathing is when you have blown it, you immediately confess the sin, blow it out and breathe in God's love, "I receive Your forgiveness." That's spiritual breathing. You need to learn to do that on a moment-by-moment basis. You can do spiritual breathing a thousand times a day as the need be. Keep short accounts with God. Don't let your stuff stockpile. If you keep short accounts when you do that Step 4 Moral Inventory, it doesn't take sixteen pages, because you've had short accounts. How often do you take out the garbage? If you just let it pile up and up, pretty soon your house starts stinking. You have to take it out. And your life starts stinking if you don't deal with the garbage that's in it on a moment-by-moment basis. So the spot check inventory is whenever you need it.
2. Daily review. At the end of the day find a quiet spot and review your day, confess your failures, celebrate your victories, look at your day.
3. Annual checkup. Kind of like spring cleaning. You go away for a day, do a moral inventory, take some time off to really look at your life. Look at my life, see if it's in order, prioritize the things in my life.
2. Meditation
Meditation is a good biblical word that has been co-opted by a lot of other people. It simply means this: Slowing down long enough to hear God. That's all it is.
The story is told of some wealthy Americans who got together and planned the adventure of a lifetime. They planned a two-week African safari. They saved their money, they bought the tickets, they mapped out the safari, they hired some guys. They enlisted the help of some locals who would carry the packs and equipment. The American arrived on the plane, met with their team, mapped out the strategy for the next day. They arose early and began their trek out in to the jungle. They pressed hard and went far on that first day. As the sun went down, they pitched tents and set up camp for the night. Early the next morning, the Americans again were early, eager with anticipation to get farther into the jungle. But they noticed that the Africans would not move. So in frustration one of the Americans went and said to one of the guides, “What’s the problem?” He said, “These men are waiting for their souls to catch up with their bodies.”
Business stifles recovery and growth. This is the secret of spiritual strength, and I find that Satan fights nothing harder in my life than this issue—making sure I get time alone with God, quiet time. He has three tools he uses: noise, crowds, and hurry. Those three things keep you from hearing God on a personal basis.
Psalm 1:1–3: "Happy are those who are always meditating on God's laws and thinking about ways to follow Him closely. They are like trees on a river that do not dry up, they succeed in everything they do." The key to growth is to have roots down deep in God's Word, and the way you get roots down deep in God's word is to meditate on it, seriously think about what you read in the Bible for a little bit then think about what does it mean to my life. That's meditation. How can I apply this to me? When you do that He says, "You're like a tree planted by the river and when the heat's on you don't wither away and when the drought comes you don't dry up and blow away." You don't have a relapse. We need each other and we need God's Word to help us keep on the Road to Recovery. Notice the benefit. He says, "If you meditate they succeed in everything they do." Succeed. How would you like to succeed in everything you do? God says, "Simple, just meditate on the Word." That habit alone will help you know the right thing to do, and then you end up succeeding.
Like the pastor friend of mine that saw this bum and realized he was a member of his church. He said, "What happened?" He said, "Pastor, you wouldn't believe it, my life has fallen apart." This guy was a mess. He said he had lost all of his income; his wife was leaving him because of the financial affairs; his kids were off on drugs; he had gotten fired from work. Life was a financial mess. Pastor said, "If you'll just get a Bible and meditate on it, God says He will make you a success." He was so confident about this. You go open the Bible, put your finger down anywhere and do what it says." Six months later he saw this guy again. Very successful. "What happened?" "Pastor, I just did what you said. I opened the Bible, put my finger down and it said Chapter 11."
I don't suggest you use that technique. The point is God says, "My Word is the way you succeed in life." This is the manual for life and life becomes easier when you follow the instructions.
How do I meditate on God's word? Psalm 119: "I thought much about your words and stored them in my heart so that they would hold me back from sin." He says, "I think about Your words, I store them in my heart." How? You memorize. As I think about Your Word and memorize key principles and key passages, it keeps me from sinning. It holds me back from relapse. You want to avoid temptation? Think about God's word. Meditate.
If you know how to worry you know how to meditate. Worry is just negative meditation. Worry: you take a negative thought and think on it over and over and over. You take a verse of the Bible and think on it over and over and over—that's called meditation. So if you know how to worry, you know how to meditate.
Now there's a third tool that God says will be helpful to you in maintaining your recovery and that's prayer.
3. Prayer
Prayer can do whatever God can do. In fact it is the way that you plug into God's power. You say that I can't do it but God can. How do I get God's power? You get it through prayer. Prayer can do what God can do.
Now how do I pray. Notice what Jesus says. Matthew 6: "This then is how you should pray: Our Father in heaven, may your holy name be honored, may your kingdom come, may your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today the food we need, forgive us the wrongs that we have done, as we forgive the wrongs that others have done to us. Do not bring us to temptation, but keep us safe from the evil one." Now I want you to notice a couple of things about the Lord's Prayer. First I want you to circle the word "how." Notice it says this is "how" you should pray. It does not say this is "what" you should pray. It says "how," It's a model. It is not a ritual to be prayed. People often ask how come we don't say the Lord's Prayer every Sunday. Because a couple of verses right before this prayer, Jesus says don't repeat a ritual prayer, don't have vain repetitions. This was not a prayer to be used as a ritual, it is a model. This is not what you should pray, this is how you should pray. Now if you notice here, all of the recovery steps are covered in this prayer. "Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name." That's saying I realize I'm not God but You are—that's Steps 1 and 2. "May Your will be done, may Your kingdom come." That's Step 5. "Give us this day our daily bread." That's Step 3. "Forgive us our debts." That's Step 4. "As we forgive others." That's Step 6. "Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil." That's relapse, that's this step. You see, recovery is as old as the Lord's Prayer. Jesus Christ gave us the principles by which we can find full recovery.
Prayer:
Father, that really is our prayer. I pray that it would be true for every person in this room. We thank You that You are our Heavenly Father and that everything that is good and right and pure and true is found in You. We thank You that You unconditionally love us, that we matter to You, that You desire to spend time with us. Lord, we’re grateful for Your presence here today. As we get ready to give back our gifts in the offering, help us more importantly not just to give of our resources but of our very lives. We desire to do it for Jesus. In His name we pray. Amen.
This sermon was adapted from the Saddleback sermon series: Getting Healthy Again.
2004/11/28
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Maintaining Momentum Mark 14:38
We've been talking the last seven weeks about coming out of the dark, exposing our problems to the light of God's love, and watching Him heal those habits, those hurts, and those hang-ups that mess up our lives. We've been in this series on called Getting Healthy for seven weeks, and many of you are seeing some great changes in your life.
But today I want to talk about how do you maintain your recovery? How do you not lose the progress you are making in your Christian life?
The fact is, growth is not smooth. The Road to Recovery is jagged. It's two steps forward, one step back. It isn't all easy. You have problems, you fall back into self-defeating patterns. That's called relapse. The alcoholic may go back to drinking. The overeater gains the weight back. The gambler goes back to the casino. The workaholic fills up his schedule again. We tend to repeat the patterns of our past. It's very easy to slip back. It's easy to slip back into old hurts, old habits, and old hang-ups.
Today I want to look at what causes a relapse and then the maintenance step, which is Step 7 on the road to recovery, on how to avoid a relapse.
Most of you are probably not aware that Chris Easton serves with me as an intern. He is a senior at Mt. Vernon Naz. University. You will be seeing more of him in the future. Today, I have asked him to help me with this sermon so in a few minutes he will address the first main point.
Before he comes, I want you to understand that relapses happen in a very predictable pattern.
1. Complacency. You start getting comfortable with short-term gains. You start saying, "I don't need any more help, my pain has been reduced, not eliminated but reduced, but I can live with reduced pain. I don't need to work the steps anymore. I don't need a counselor or a mentor and you become complacent.
2. Confusion. That's when you start rationalizing, saying, "Maybe it wasn't really so bad after all, the problem really wasn't that bad, I can handle it myself." You start forgetting how bad it was.
3. Compromise. You go back to the place of temptation. You return to the risky situation that got you in trouble in the first place, whether it's the bar, or the mall, or thirty-one flavors, or whatever. You go back to that place. Like the gambler who says, "Let's go to Vegas, we'll just see the shows." You start compromising.
4. Catastrophe. This is where you give in to the old habit, old hurt, and the hate comes back, or the resentment comes back, or the old hang-up. You need to understand that the collapse is not the relapse. The catastrophe is not when the relapse happens; it started much earlier. The catastrophe is simply the result of the pattern that happened.
Why do we fall back? Why do we, even when we know which way to go, when we know the right thing, why do we tend to go back on what we know is the right.
I. What can cause a relapse?
1. Reverting to willpower.
Galatians 3:3: "How can you be so foolish? You began by God's spirit, do you now want to finish on your own power?" You start off trusting God, and Step 1 is I'm powerless to change, but Step 2 is God has the power, Step 3 is I'm giving it to God. And you let God make those changes in your life, but after a while you start thinking, "It's me that's doing this, I'm making the changes. It's my power.” And you resort to good old willpower and that doesn't work. You have a few successes and suddenly think you're all powerful, all knowing and can handle everything.
It's like the middle-aged lady that went to New York and went up to the twenty-third floor of an apartment, knocked on the door, a beautiful young lady opened the door, incense wafting out, music playing, and she's wearing a sarong or a sari, she's clapping little bells and she said, "Are you here to see the great Bagone? The one who knows all, sees all, tells all, understands everything, is in ultimate control?" She said "Yes, tell Sheldon his mother is here." We all need somebody to tell us when we're Sheldon. We all need someone to say,"Who are you kidding? You're you." And God will let you relapse and relapse and relapse until you realize you can't do it on your own. He'll just let you fall, one hundred, two hundred, three hundred times till you say, "God, I can't do it.
Zechariah 4:6: "Not by might, nor by power, but by My spirit says the Lord. You will succeed because of My Spirit." Only God has the power to take away those defects. If you go back to will power you're going to relapse. If you're thinking, "I'll just try harder," forget it.
2. Ignoring one of the steps.
We get in a hurry. We try to move through the steps to quickly, maybe you want to skip a difficult step like, "I don't think I need that one last week on the amends part; I'll have partial recovery; and we'll just kind of skip that one that says, "Go back to the people you've harmed." No, you need to do all the steps or it doesn't work. And you need to follow what the Bible has said are principles for life. So there's no quick fix. You didn't get into this mess overnight; you're not going to get out of it. You need to do all the steps.
"You were doing so well. Who made you stop obeying the truth." He says, Keep working the steps. Maintain your momentum. Stay with the basics.
3. Trying to recover without support.
“I'll just get well by myself. I don't need anybody else's help." You're asking for a relapse. "I'll listen to these sermons, I'm not going to go to counseling, I'm not going to go to Celebrate Recovery, I'm not going to go to small group; I'll listen to these messages andI'll just get well on my own." Wrong. It doesn't work that way. "Two are better off than one because if one of them falls down, the other can help him up. But if someone is alone and falls it's too bad because there's nobody there to listen and lift him up or help him."
You can't lick this problem alone. If you could have you would have. But you can't so you won't. When you're tempted and things are going bad, who you gonna call? That great theologian Bill Withers said, "We all need somebody to lean on." We do all need somebody to lean on and we need support. And you're not going to make it in life if you don't have those relationships. Hebrews 10:25: "Let us not give up the habit of meeting together." You can see short-term gains in your life without involving other people if you'll do these steps. Yes. You can do these steps on your own and you'll see short-term effects, but you cannot do long-term recovery without relationships. The root of your problem is relational. You can go out and practice these things on your own and not get involved with anybody else. It will work for a while but it won't work for long and you will relapse. I guarantee it. It's kind of like driving a car at fifty-five miles an hour and you take your hands off the wheel. You're not going to crash immediately but it will happen, eventually. And if you don't get support when the temptation comes and then you don't feel like doing the right thing, who's going to help you do the right thing? If you fall, who's there to help you?
In order to avoid a relapse you need to get support in your life. Because of denial you often can't see your own problems. So we need each other to serve as mirrors. That's the value of these testimonies and stories we've been having. When we share our stories with one another, We see some part of ourselves in it. I would never have seen it in me unless you shared it with me. And when I share you see part of yourself in me. And so when you share a testimony it brings healing to yourself and hope to other people.
4. Becoming Prideful
We get overconfident and prideful and say, “I am strong,. I’ve got this hurt licked. I’ve got this habit licked. I’ve forgiven them, closed the door.” Prov. 16:18, “Pride goes before destruction.” There’s an old saying that states very clearly, “The man who gets to big for his britches will eventually get exposed in the end.”
Pride, yes even spiritual pride will always set you up for a fall. The secret of lasting recovery and staying healthy is humility. It is the best protection.
Do you remember a few years ago before the Soviet Union broke up there was a German teenage boy who flew a private plane into Soviet airspace and landed it in the Kremlin in Red Square? The most heavily guarded air space in the world and a kid flies right into it. That is a parable of life. What it says is that your greatest weakness is often an unguarded strength. You say, "I've got this all together" "Let him who stands take heed less he fall." "Oh, my marriage would never fall apart." Watch out. "I'd never get addicted to anything." Watch out. "Let him who stands take heed lest he fall." Because often the very area you think you're strongest in is unguarded, and that's where a plane's going to fly in and land right in the middle of it.
II. How do I prevent a relapse?
Maintaince Maintain the Steps we’ve been talking about.
Step 7 is the Maintenance Step. Reserve a daily time for God, For self-examanation, Bible reading,and prayer in order to know God and his will for my life, and gain the power to do it.
This is based on Mark 14:38: "Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation, for the Spirit is willing but the body is weak." He's saying it is human nature to have a relapse, to go back to things that mess us up even though we know they mess us up. It's human nature to let past problems revisit us, old hurts, and hang-ups come back to haunt us. So He said, you need to have some safeguards. And that's what this step is about. There are three safeguards that help you maintain your recovery.
Three maintenance tools:
1. Evaluation.
First Corinthians 13 says, "Check up on yourselves. Lamentations tell us, "Let us examine ourselves and let us repent." What do we first examine? and when?
What to Evaluate -- Four kinds of inventories:
1. Physical: You ask the question, "What is my body telling me?" Your body is a barometer of what's happening inside you. You have tense muscles? Guess what? You're under stress. You have a headache or a backache. What is it saying to you? Your body is a barometer, a warning light that maybe something is wrong, and so periodically you need to stop, maybe in the middle of the day and say, "What is my body saying to me? Am I hungry? Am I tired? Am I fatigued? Am I stressed out?" Take some clues that maybe things are out of line.
2. Emotional: What am I feeling right now? Am I allowing my real feelings to surface? Or am I just pushing them down? Pushing down your real feelings is like shaking up a Coke bottle and not taking the cap off; it's going to blow eventually. You do what I call a "heart check."
H - Am I hurting? If you are hurting and won't admit it and deal with it, it's going to mess up what you're doing.
E - Am I exhausted?
A - Am I angry?
R - Do I resent anybody?
T - Am I tense? anxious? fearful?
3. Relational: Am I at peace with everyone? If you're not, that internal conflict is going to keep you back, hold you back, from your recovery. There are some people around you, you obviously know when you are having conflict with. But there are other people a million miles away … Do you realize you let some people live rent free in your mind? Aunt so and so hurt you fifteen years ago and she lives a thousand miles away, and you wake up thinking about her. You're letting her live rent free in your mind. Preoccupied with it. It's controlling you. You got to let it go. Ask yourself, "Is there anybody living rent free in my mind? Am I holding on to a hurt?"
4. Spiritual: Am I relying on God? Moment by moment am I relying on God?
When you do an inventory at work, like a grocery store, you don't just look at the bad fruit that's spoiled, you look at the good fruit too. When you do an inventory you want to say, "What's good in my life?" You celebrate any minor victory, no matter how small it is, on a daily basis. I told the truth at least once today. I blew it three times but I was calm twice. I at least wanted to be unselfish in that situation. You celebrate, no matter how small the progress is, I'm making progress.
You do an evaluation, you celebrate your successes and confess your failures, but you be grateful for what you have done that's right. "Each one should test his own action. Then he can take pride in himself without comparing himself to somebody else." You can be honestly prideful, I'm proud of what God's doing in my life. I'm grateful that God is working and I'm seeing progress in my life.
When do I do my evaluation? Evaluation is kind of like cleaning house, and there are three ways you can clean a house:
1. Some of you are neatnicks. You are instant cleaners, you live with a Dustbuster strapped to your holster. You walk around behind the kids, picking up after them, like those waiters at restaurants who take your plate before you've finished your meal.
2. Others of you kind of clean house at the end of the day. Look around the house, pick it all up, do a daily clean up, keep the thing from falling completely apart.
3. Others of you, once a year, whether the house needs it or not, clean it up. Kind of like spring cleaning.
This is the same way you can do an inventory.
1. Spot check inventory. At any time of the day, you start feeling the pressure build you say, "What is my body saying to me? What are my emotions saying? Am I tuned into God right now? Do I have any relational conflict?" You try to deal with it immediately, because the longer you postpone a problem, the worse it gets. You need to learn to do what I call spiritual breathing. Just as natural as breathing is to you, you need to do spiritual breathing. Spiritual breathing is when you have blown it, you immediately confess the sin, blow it out and breathe in God's love, "I receive Your forgiveness." That's spiritual breathing. You need to learn to do that on a moment-by-moment basis. You can do spiritual breathing a thousand times a day as the need be. Keep short accounts with God. Don't let your stuff stockpile. If you keep short accounts when you do that Step 4 Moral Inventory, it doesn't take sixteen pages, because you've had short accounts. How often do you take out the garbage? If you just let it pile up and up, pretty soon your house starts stinking. You have to take it out. And your life starts stinking if you don't deal with the garbage that's in it on a moment-by-moment basis. So the spot check inventory is whenever you need it.
2. Daily review. At the end of the day find a quiet spot and review your day, confess your failures, celebrate your victories, look at your day.
3. Annual checkup. Kind of like spring cleaning. You go away for a day, do a moral inventory, take some time off to really look at your life. Look at my life, see if it's in order, prioritize the things in my life.
2. Meditation
Meditation is a good biblical word that has been co-opted by a lot of other people. It simply means this: Slowing down long enough to hear God. That's all it is.
The story is told of some wealthy Americans who got together and planned the adventure of a lifetime. They planned a two-week African safari. They saved their money, they bought the tickets, they mapped out the safari, they hired some guys. They enlisted the help of some locals who would carry the packs and equipment. The American arrived on the plane, met with their team, mapped out the strategy for the next day. They arose early and began their trek out in to the jungle. They pressed hard and went far on that first day. As the sun went down, they pitched tents and set up camp for the night. Early the next morning, the Americans again were early, eager with anticipation to get farther into the jungle. But they noticed that the Africans would not move. So in frustration one of the Americans went and said to one of the guides, “What’s the problem?” He said, “These men are waiting for their souls to catch up with their bodies.”
Business stifles recovery and growth. This is the secret of spiritual strength, and I find that Satan fights nothing harder in my life than this issue—making sure I get time alone with God, quiet time. He has three tools he uses: noise, crowds, and hurry. Those three things keep you from hearing God on a personal basis.
Psalm 1:1–3: "Happy are those who are always meditating on God's laws and thinking about ways to follow Him closely. They are like trees on a river that do not dry up, they succeed in everything they do." The key to growth is to have roots down deep in God's Word, and the way you get roots down deep in God's word is to meditate on it, seriously think about what you read in the Bible for a little bit then think about what does it mean to my life. That's meditation. How can I apply this to me? When you do that He says, "You're like a tree planted by the river and when the heat's on you don't wither away and when the drought comes you don't dry up and blow away." You don't have a relapse. We need each other and we need God's Word to help us keep on the Road to Recovery. Notice the benefit. He says, "If you meditate they succeed in everything they do." Succeed. How would you like to succeed in everything you do? God says, "Simple, just meditate on the Word." That habit alone will help you know the right thing to do, and then you end up succeeding.
Like the pastor friend of mine that saw this bum and realized he was a member of his church. He said, "What happened?" He said, "Pastor, you wouldn't believe it, my life has fallen apart." This guy was a mess. He said he had lost all of his income; his wife was leaving him because of the financial affairs; his kids were off on drugs; he had gotten fired from work. Life was a financial mess. Pastor said, "If you'll just get a Bible and meditate on it, God says He will make you a success." He was so confident about this. You go open the Bible, put your finger down anywhere and do what it says." Six months later he saw this guy again. Very successful. "What happened?" "Pastor, I just did what you said. I opened the Bible, put my finger down and it said Chapter 11."
I don't suggest you use that technique. The point is God says, "My Word is the way you succeed in life." This is the manual for life and life becomes easier when you follow the instructions.
How do I meditate on God's word? Psalm 119: "I thought much about your words and stored them in my heart so that they would hold me back from sin." He says, "I think about Your words, I store them in my heart." How? You memorize. As I think about Your Word and memorize key principles and key passages, it keeps me from sinning. It holds me back from relapse. You want to avoid temptation? Think about God's word. Meditate.
If you know how to worry you know how to meditate. Worry is just negative meditation. Worry: you take a negative thought and think on it over and over and over. You take a verse of the Bible and think on it over and over and over—that's called meditation. So if you know how to worry, you know how to meditate.
Now there's a third tool that God says will be helpful to you in maintaining your recovery and that's prayer.
3. Prayer
Prayer can do whatever God can do. In fact it is the way that you plug into God's power. You say that I can't do it but God can. How do I get God's power? You get it through prayer. Prayer can do what God can do.
Now how do I pray. Notice what Jesus says. Matthew 6: "This then is how you should pray: Our Father in heaven, may your holy name be honored, may your kingdom come, may your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today the food we need, forgive us the wrongs that we have done, as we forgive the wrongs that others have done to us. Do not bring us to temptation, but keep us safe from the evil one." Now I want you to notice a couple of things about the Lord's Prayer. First I want you to circle the word "how." Notice it says this is "how" you should pray. It does not say this is "what" you should pray. It says "how," It's a model. It is not a ritual to be prayed. People often ask how come we don't say the Lord's Prayer every Sunday. Because a couple of verses right before this prayer, Jesus says don't repeat a ritual prayer, don't have vain repetitions. This was not a prayer to be used as a ritual, it is a model. This is not what you should pray, this is how you should pray. Now if you notice here, all of the recovery steps are covered in this prayer. "Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name." That's saying I realize I'm not God but You are—that's Steps 1 and 2. "May Your will be done, may Your kingdom come." That's Step 5. "Give us this day our daily bread." That's Step 3. "Forgive us our debts." That's Step 4. "As we forgive others." That's Step 6. "Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil." That's relapse, that's this step. You see, recovery is as old as the Lord's Prayer. Jesus Christ gave us the principles by which we can find full recovery.
Prayer:
Father, that really is our prayer. I pray that it would be true for every person in this room. We thank You that You are our Heavenly Father and that everything that is good and right and pure and true is found in You. We thank You that You unconditionally love us, that we matter to You, that You desire to spend time with us. Lord, we’re grateful for Your presence here today. As we get ready to give back our gifts in the offering, help us more importantly not just to give of our resources but of our very lives. We desire to do it for Jesus. In His name we pray. Amen.
This sermon was adapted from the Saddleback sermon series: Getting Healthy Again.
But today I want to talk about how do you maintain your recovery? How do you not lose the progress you are making in your Christian life? 
I. What can cause a relapse?
II. How do I prevent a relapse?